GIRL+MARRIAGE=NULL
GIRL+MARRIAGE=NULL
Topper in class...First in everything...Right from childhood people praised her saying that she is different from others and she is something special.She scored very well in 10th and P.U.C.She proved herself that she is farmore better than boys.Four years of hardwork and finally graduation day...She took her degree certificate and went to her dad..She kept that certificate in her dad's hand and in turn got an envelope into her hand.She thought that its a gift from her dad in recognition to her hardwork.With excited eyes, She opened the cover...tears rolled out of her eyes.Guess what??Her dad gave her the pictures of bridegroom.She refused.People who praised her,started talking ill about her.
Society:You have successfully completed your studies and got a job.This is good enough.But you are a girl.Now You should get married immediately...Jobs are meant only for boys.You should go and sit in the kitchen.
Parents:We never stopped you from doing anything.And now..its time for you to listen to us.We made you study till whereever you want.And now..You should fullfill our wish.Orelse society will blame us for delaying your marriage.
Siblings:Get married fast know!!So that I get good time in your marriage.And if you delay,even my marriage will get delayed.
The other boys:How much ever you study..How good you score..It doesn't matter..Because you are a girl.You shouldn't run more than what you are expected to...Learn to stay in your limits.
She:............................................................................................................
No more words!!Because she is a girl,her career had a crash landing.Either she should get married or get bad name as she denied for what everyone said. You want the girl to study well.You want her to get a good job.But you won't allow her to do job and right after her studies,you force her to bow her head and agree for marriage.Yes!!still there are such people.I am highlighting such dads in this post.Is it her mistake to take birth as a girl?Is her life meant only for marriage and kids?Won't she have her own individuality?The interface of a girls life is marriage.Before that she lives under the name of her father and after that under husband.If someone asks her what she is..She should either reply that she is daughter of so and so..or wife of so and so..Her life gets drowned in a relationship.No matter what the generation is..No matter what the decade is..No matter how successful many women are..The only life acheivement for a dad is to put his girl's hand in a guy's hand.You never understand the challenges she face.You never understand the struggles she make for her identity and self respect.The only thing that a society know is to poke a girl's dad by their questions on her marriage right after her studies.Every dad of a girl thinks that his child isn't like everyone and he is also not like all other dads as well.He thinks that inspite everyone is asking him that why he is educating his girl so much,he is doing his best to make her happy.But when it comes to the matter of marriage,he gets manipulated by the society thinking that if his daughter won't get married right after her studies,she won't get married forever.The only time when a girl looks life colourful is when she lives on her own without depending on others.If you remove that phase in her life,When will she eat the fruits of her hardwork?All her struggles will go in vain.Just because you have grown her up,you don't have the right to burn her in your fears.As it is her own life give her the basic respect to give her own opinion.Never ever try to force your decisions on her.A girl can understand that a parent who had experienced life more than her always takes a good step.But she can't digest when her hardwork isn't productive.Give her a chance to live life independently.Let her know what life is..Not just moving from one home to other makes her life complete.Let her take a break,before she look at the other shades of life,before she enters an entirely different world,before she get ready for adjustments.Let her take responsibility on herself before she takes on a family.Value her opinions.Your fears shouldn't burn her hopes.As a parent if you really care for your daughter,if you really know when to do what,before you do something with your child's life,just introspect whether you are giving importance to your child or getting influenced by society.Don't sacrifice your child for the sake of society.She never objects if you make her marriage after allowing her to do job for a certain period.Because a job is her dream for which she strived hard from 21 years.Because she thinks that if she gets job she can take care of her parents and ask them to stop working.She thinks about you and you overthink about her keeping your fears in mind.Don't get influenced by society.Working for 2 or 3 years won't make her a senior citizen.After marriage it will be in the hands of her husband whether to allow her for a job or not.If you yourself don't allow her to do job,then how will a guy who she don't know from past 21 years will give importance to her opinion?
DEDICATED TO ALL GIRLS WHO ARE NOT ALLOWED FOR A JOB AFTER STUDIES
Topper in class...First in everything...Right from childhood people praised her saying that she is different from others and she is something special.She scored very well in 10th and P.U.C.She proved herself that she is farmore better than boys.Four years of hardwork and finally graduation day...She took her degree certificate and went to her dad..She kept that certificate in her dad's hand and in turn got an envelope into her hand.She thought that its a gift from her dad in recognition to her hardwork.With excited eyes, She opened the cover...tears rolled out of her eyes.Guess what??Her dad gave her the pictures of bridegroom.She refused.People who praised her,started talking ill about her.
Society:You have successfully completed your studies and got a job.This is good enough.But you are a girl.Now You should get married immediately...Jobs are meant only for boys.You should go and sit in the kitchen.
Parents:We never stopped you from doing anything.And now..its time for you to listen to us.We made you study till whereever you want.And now..You should fullfill our wish.Orelse society will blame us for delaying your marriage.
Siblings:Get married fast know!!So that I get good time in your marriage.And if you delay,even my marriage will get delayed.
The other boys:How much ever you study..How good you score..It doesn't matter..Because you are a girl.You shouldn't run more than what you are expected to...Learn to stay in your limits.
She:............................................................................................................
No more words!!Because she is a girl,her career had a crash landing.Either she should get married or get bad name as she denied for what everyone said. You want the girl to study well.You want her to get a good job.But you won't allow her to do job and right after her studies,you force her to bow her head and agree for marriage.Yes!!still there are such people.I am highlighting such dads in this post.Is it her mistake to take birth as a girl?Is her life meant only for marriage and kids?Won't she have her own individuality?The interface of a girls life is marriage.Before that she lives under the name of her father and after that under husband.If someone asks her what she is..She should either reply that she is daughter of so and so..or wife of so and so..Her life gets drowned in a relationship.No matter what the generation is..No matter what the decade is..No matter how successful many women are..The only life acheivement for a dad is to put his girl's hand in a guy's hand.You never understand the challenges she face.You never understand the struggles she make for her identity and self respect.The only thing that a society know is to poke a girl's dad by their questions on her marriage right after her studies.Every dad of a girl thinks that his child isn't like everyone and he is also not like all other dads as well.He thinks that inspite everyone is asking him that why he is educating his girl so much,he is doing his best to make her happy.But when it comes to the matter of marriage,he gets manipulated by the society thinking that if his daughter won't get married right after her studies,she won't get married forever.The only time when a girl looks life colourful is when she lives on her own without depending on others.If you remove that phase in her life,When will she eat the fruits of her hardwork?All her struggles will go in vain.Just because you have grown her up,you don't have the right to burn her in your fears.As it is her own life give her the basic respect to give her own opinion.Never ever try to force your decisions on her.A girl can understand that a parent who had experienced life more than her always takes a good step.But she can't digest when her hardwork isn't productive.Give her a chance to live life independently.Let her know what life is..Not just moving from one home to other makes her life complete.Let her take a break,before she look at the other shades of life,before she enters an entirely different world,before she get ready for adjustments.Let her take responsibility on herself before she takes on a family.Value her opinions.Your fears shouldn't burn her hopes.As a parent if you really care for your daughter,if you really know when to do what,before you do something with your child's life,just introspect whether you are giving importance to your child or getting influenced by society.Don't sacrifice your child for the sake of society.She never objects if you make her marriage after allowing her to do job for a certain period.Because a job is her dream for which she strived hard from 21 years.Because she thinks that if she gets job she can take care of her parents and ask them to stop working.She thinks about you and you overthink about her keeping your fears in mind.Don't get influenced by society.Working for 2 or 3 years won't make her a senior citizen.After marriage it will be in the hands of her husband whether to allow her for a job or not.If you yourself don't allow her to do job,then how will a guy who she don't know from past 21 years will give importance to her opinion?
DEDICATED TO ALL GIRLS WHO ARE NOT ALLOWED FOR A JOB AFTER STUDIES
Really now a days this is the very common situation ...well said srilu ....👏👍
ReplyDeleteGreat writing I was literally in the flow as the scroll though your article.
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